Am I Too Nice?

Susan Cwik

Am I too nice?

I truly believe in treating people how I would want to be treated and, I guess, I think that others would do the same. Right?! I tend not to lie to people. If I don’t like something in a store, or think the prices are too high, I just don’t say anything except, “Thanks and have a great day.” The owner can then do whatever they want with that, but I haven’t lied to them.

I am beginning to feel as if all the people who have gushed, and I mean gushed, over my store being here were just lying. They never come back and I have no idea why. It’s hard to figure out what I need to do when everything others say is so glowing. It is truly confuzzling!

Back to the original question, yes, I am too nice but I can’t change that. I’m also not willing to change that. I’m a nice person and I feel that most of the people around here, so far, have taken advantage of that. The majority of people have come in, asked questions, told me how wonderful the store is, don’t buy anything, and are never seen again. I know I have mentioned this before, but this is truly a confounding thing. With the number of people who have said this, if they had come back, I would be so freakishly busy. Instead I sit here wondering what I have done wrong. This is so incredibly frustrating!

Now, I was talking to a rep about this the other day and I confirmed with her that I had moved my store from Wisconsin down to Savannah. She is originally from Virginia and is now out in Oregon. I want to preface, that the rep brought this up and do not get your undies in a bunch about what she next told me. However, I have been thinking it. Anyway, she stated that when she was in Virginia she noticed that southern people tend to be fake nice. What this means is that you are so polite that you just talk and talk trying to be nice, when, in fact, you do not really mean what you say. Based on my experience, I would say that this is a definite thing. I would love to have the entire community prove me wrong.  Until then, I have to figure out how to get past that. To get people to trust me and open up to me with how I can help them. They just first need to walk through the door.

That brings me back to my original question: Am I too nice? Is my genuine niceness a turnoff to others? Do people just don’t know what to do when others are truly being nice and trying to help them? If so, I am sorry for all those people. Just know that if you do walk through the door of my store, you will be treated with respect due another human being. We all have a journey, we all have a story, and we all need help and that’s all I’m trying to do, help.

Until next time,

                Have a Healthy Day!!

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